It is estimated that 50,000 women a year start families on their own, according to Mikki Morrissette, founder of the Minnesota-based online forum Choice Moms. The trend seems to be kicking in with increases in the number of financially independent single women who don't necessarily see a point in waiting for Mr Right to have their children.
Scott Brown, the California Cryobank's director of communications, estimates that about 10,000-20,000 single women visit a sperm bank every year. He believes that within 20 years, single heterosexual women will represent more than half of its clientele.
Yiskah Rosenfeld, 42, is one such woman: "I realized that for me part of what it is to be human is to be a parent. I bought into the myth that you only have a child if you have a partner. It took a while to overcome that fantasy," she told Mercury News.
Jane Mattes, a New York psychotherapist who founded the support group Single Mothers by Choice in 1981 knows that sentiment well and traces the roots of the trend of chosen single motherhood to the 1970s feminist movement, which opened doors to better, higher paying jobs for women.
The trend is also reflected in two films this year - last April's "The Back-up Plan" and "The Switch" which opens on Friday. Jennifer Aniston, who plays an artificially inseminated single woman in "The Switch" recently commented: "They [women] don't have to fiddle with a man to have that child.They are realizing if it's that time in their life and they want this, they can do it with or without that [man]."
Bill O'Reilly, from Fox News, promptly took offence, saying Aniston's words were "destructive to our society" and that she was spreading a message to young girls that they don't need a dad.
To add to the ruckus, organisations like the Center for Marriage and Families have published a report entitled "My Daddy's Name Is Donor", claiming that "young adults conceived through sperm donation experience profound struggles with their origins and identities and that their family relationships are more often characterized by confusion, tension, and loss." (I wonder if they've also looked into the ramifications of forced or unhappy heterosexual relationships on young adults,but somehow I doubt it).
The hesitation expressed by narrow minded physicians, organisations and other individuals reflects the reluctance of our society as a whole to accept strong independent women confidently stepping into the shoes of bread-winners and decision-makers.
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